Teen GPS Tracking Devices – Do You Dare Track Your Teenager?

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Truth or Dare?

Truth? Okay, here goes….. The truth is, that as a parent, as our child enters their teenage years, we worry more than we ever did. As they get older, it seems to get worse. We want them to grow confident and be independent, but then again, we don’t.. its contradictory. Have you ever sneaked a peek at your daughters diary? Looked at your son’s Facebook followers? Listened outside a bedroom door?

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We tell ourselves it’s out of concern, but there is a little guilty part of us that knows that sometimes, just sometimes, we are just being plain old nosy… we don’t want to let go, and even though we spent the last decade and a half teaching them independence, the minute they start BEING independent, we go into super sleuth James Bond mode, wondering why our teenager is now ‘keeping secrets’.

So. You may have started looking at Teen GPS Tracking Devices… just out of curiosity of course! But the question remains, would you DARE to track your teenager? Let’s discuss…

Don’t Lose Track of the Pre-teens

It’s pretty easy to justify using a GPS Location Tracker on a child from 10 -13 years old. At this age, they are probably walking home from school or riding the bus or visiting their friends without an adult chaperone for the first time. You can probably both benefit from this. You, as the parent can watch the route of your child as they make their way to and from, ensuring they don’t go off course. Your child will benefit as they will feel safe knowing that Mom or Dad are watching, as they build their confidence navigating the world.

This one is an easy discussion to have with your child, and you probably won’t see much resistance. It may be as easy as agreeing together that they switch on the GPS tracking feature of their cell or mobile phone when asked to.

Eventually though, your child is going to tell you that he or she doesn’t need you watching anymore… and this is where things start getting tricky. What if you aren’t ready to let go of that navigation marker yet? What if you have other concerns or motivations? Just, what if…….?

Spying apps – An Extreme Solution

Technology is advancing at the speed of light, and so is tracking technology. There is a current trend sweeping the world, where parents are putting full-blown ‘spy’ apps on their teenager’s cell phones – these apps can listen in to phone calls, read text messages, look in on your teenagers social media accounts, read emails, access the camera and photos, pretty much anything! You can have full and complete access to your child’s smartphone and everything on it – without them even knowing.

Now, call me old-fashioned, but this writer feels that this is a complete invasion of privacy. I know not all of you will agree, and that’s fine, that’s just my view – but let’s take it back a generation shall we? When I was a young girl, I kept a diary under my bed. It was kept locked. I do not recall EVER seeing an advertisement in a magazine or infomercial, directed at parents for ‘Diary Skeleton Keys’. I certainly do not remember my parents dressed in camouflage hiding outside the video game arcade with binoculars. I’m pretty sure they never bugged my bedroom. I guess life was simpler then, and families operated on the values of trust and respect. I’m not quite sure how or why this has suddenly changed.

Don’t get me wrong, I do believe there is a place for GPS tracking of teenagers in this day and age, under the correct circumstances and in the right situations, which I will go into shortly. However, I think that when we live in a world where it is suddenly becoming a ‘trend’ to covertly spy on our teenagers in such an intrusive way, then it’s time to take a step back and pause for thought in regard to what we are doing, and ask ourselves if we aren’t just going a little bonkers.

Technology is NEVER going to replace proper parenting, and the more trust we put into our ‘spying apps’, and the less trust we put into our children, the more we are increasing the possibly of ruining our relationship and closeness with our teenagers. Communicating, teaching and leading by example has been, and always will be, the best approach for a long and stable relationship with our kids.

Why Do You Want to Track Your Teenager?

Just because the technology is available, doesn’t mean we have to use it. We live in an age where clever marketers brainwash us to believe that we MUST HAVE whatever it is they are pushing. I am a hopeless consumer, I wait in line when a new phone model is released, I spend a small fortune on miracle anti-ageing wrinkle skin creams and techniques, and have every games console ever produced – but I’m aware. I know I’m getting sucked in, but I buy anyway, because I like shopping and I like being up to date.

But when it comes to my family, it’s a different story. I won’t be sucked in, and any decision I make, I take great consideration as to how it will affect my family as a whole, each of its members, and my relationships with them in future years. My family trust each other and we respect each others’ privacy (except if I’m in the shower or toilet – apparently Moms have an open door bathroom policy… ugh.. I know you are with me on this one). I use GPS technology to track my pets on a constant basis, and I use it on my children (I have four, ranging from 7 to 19) in specific situations. I never use tracking technology covertly, it is always discussed openly and we have never had any major problems with it.

I can’t possibly imagine every scenario, in every family or understand what has motivated you to start researching teen GPS tracking devices but I can share some rules and guidelines Mr. Kay and I have set for our teenagers (If you would like to read my post on using GPS tracking with toddlers, please click here).

Guidelines and Rules in Casa de Kay

  • When going out after dark or overnight, tracking devices are used and on constantly. The deal is, as parents, we will not even look at the device if curfews are met, and as long as their cell phones are answered if we ring them. This rule is in place not because we don’t trust our teenagers, but because as parents we are paranoid and worried, and in return, our kids humour us. It works great – generally we get a phone call or text from our kids when they are on their way home, or if they are going to be late. We even get ‘goodnight’ text messages from sleepovers. Because if we HAVE to track them, and we aren’t tracking them to the hospital, they’re grounded and phones are confiscated.
  • My daughter rides horses. When she rides, there is a tracker on her, and one on the horse. This is so if she gets thrown, or the horse bolts, both are easily found. A friend of hers had been thrown off once, and badly injured, and as they had been riding through woods on a horse trail, it was very difficult to locate her in a vehicle… a tracker would have been a Godsend here. It’s one thing to have a cell phone, but when the call goes something like, ‘I’m not sure where I am Mom, about a mile or two up the Chiltern Hills trail’, it’s not especially helpful.
  • Social Media- Our kids must accept our friend requests on any social media they join. In return, we promise never to post onto their timelines, tag them, @mention them or admit to being related to them in any way. This was hard, learning my son wasn’t always politically correct, and is obsessed with boobies was difficult take without comment, but given that all he posted was boobies and sloth memes, I actually stopped looking after a while. Same with my daughter, after 500 fish pout selfies, and countless YouTube videos of hairstyles and face contouring, I had seen enough. They still think I look, and hopefully that makes them think twice about what they put out there, but the truth is apart from a once a month check in, I don’t. I have better things to do.
  • When we go abroad, everyone in the family wears a tracker. International cell phone calls are expensive and its cheaper to use free WiFi hotspots or hotel WiFi to keep track of where everyone is, and we all track each other. Additionally, when you are looking at a map of the area you are in, as you tend to do when using a tracking device, you become more familiar with the area you are in which is useful when in an unfamiliar place or country. You would be surprised how useful a GPS tracking device can be when on holiday!
  • Similar to above, when we go hiking or camping we all have varying fitness levels, so although we always stay in pairs, the trackers give us the ability to hike at our own paces without feeling separated.

There are many other one-off situations that you may consider it beneficial to track your teenager, but in every scenario, being open and discussing the fact that they are or will be in use is key to being able to bring these devices into your family without too much upset.

So, as you can see, using a teen GPS tracking device to track your teenager can actually inspire trust and respect within a family unit when used the right way. Teenagers ‘allow’ you to track them, and in return we give them the freedom they desire. It’s give and take. The minute we start being deceitful and covert, we set a bad example, and should only expect the same behaviour from our teenagers in return.

Final Words on Teenager Tracking Devices

You may have noticed an obvious emission in this post, as I haven’t mentioned GPS vehicle tracking, or tracking your teenagers car. This is something that I am currently researching and actually considering using with my daughter. My first impression is that as long as the honesty and openness is there, and its not a covert manoeuvre, that this could be another beneficial aspect of GPS tracking, and I think it probably deserves a post of its own, so stay tuned for an article on this in the near future!

Finally… before you all start commenting about how your teenager this, and your teenager that and try to convince me that spying on your kids is somehow right, please keep in mind that I am speaking in general terms, and that maybe you do have a good and valid reason for needing to do this. There are always exceptions to every rule, and maybe you are the exception. I would be more inclined to believe that communication with your child, and maybe even family therapy is a more healthy way to build trust into your relationship with your teenager… but that’s just me…

15 Replies to “Teen GPS Tracking Devices – Do You Dare Track Your Teenager?

  1. I think you hit it on the mark with your comment that technology will never replace proper parenting. Now, if we could just teach some parents proper parenting and all will be well. 🙂

  2. Yeah for sure. I guess tracking would be good incase of an emergency but, I think trust is the best thing you can have. You got to have trust that they’re going to make the right choices and all you can do is guide them. Nice really enjoyed the read, cool stuff.

    1. Thanks Jonathan!
      For damage control in an emergency, GPS trackers are great. It’s when we use them for spying, or as electronic babysitters, that’s we start seeing problems.
      Kx

  3. This is a great insight on how to check in on your kids while keeping a well-established trust between everyone. Being open and talking with your kids about what you are doing and what you expect is great and letting them know that you trust them and back that sounds like it would go a long way. Great read!

  4. This is a great insight for parents that may be considering tracking their kids or not. I think the best take away from it is that parents and kids should both be honest and open with each other. It seems to go a long way for both sides. Great read and insight for parents.

    1. Thanks for reaching out Dakota. I think if we all spend a bit more time thinking, and a bit less time browsing, common sense might once again rule the day!
      Kx

  5. What an amazing article so thoughtful and heart felt, although my children are adults now I wish this technology had been available while they were younger.
    The world has changed since then and in today’s world parents need such excellent tools not for spying but for the peace of mind technology can provide.
    Fantastic thoughts I’ll be sure to share the information with my children to help keep the grandchildren safe.

    1. Thanks for your wonderful comment Earl… hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I’m sure that many of us will look back at the way we parented our children, and think there were maybe things we could have done different… so YES, please do share with your family and friends, and let’s get everyone thinking!
      Kx

  6. I agree with the balance in your home 🙂 It’s a bit over the top with the spying app, although I am not surprised that some parents resort to this. I can’t even imagine a teenager being ok with it, and if they found out–look out, haha.
    Given this day and age we are living in: some safety tracking devices are a good thing (as you mentioned) we could potentially help save their life! Good ol’ fashioned parenting skills is a must~
    Thanks for your post!
    Jen~

    1. I know that if I put a spying app on my teenagers phone, and they found out… whoaaaa, I dread to think of the response… I do know though, that every bit of trust we had built up over the course of a lifetime would go out the window in an instant!
      I’m sure there is probably a situation this is perfect for, I’m just drawing a blank when trying to think of one. :/
      Kx

  7. Interesting article. I can understand the concern for safety. I feel that as long as the teenager is aware that you are tracking them for safety concern it would be alright. I for one would not want someone tracking my whereabouts without my knowledge.

  8. IDK kay, I still love the idea of the leash. Nothing gave me a better laugh than to see the parent with the child collared and leashed. If your going to treat them like a dog it would be irresponsible at that point not to tag them.!!!!
    The D.C. swamp people would refer to this enigma as a “slippery slope”.
    We all agree as good parents that there should be no need, but we have all experienced that time where they disappeared right out from under your nose.
    It does not matter how old a person is, being tagged, so big brother knows where he might be at all times seems pretty unconstitutional to me. I wouldn’t want it to be known where I am at any given time.
    Berger

    1. haha David! I don’t even want to comment on kids on leashes, and my teenager would just drag me around the streets if I put him on a leash – he is pretty strong! But yes, it’s that slippery slope we need to be aware of, because there is a big cesspool of regret at the bottom of it. Communication and mutual respect are key!
      Kx

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